Can Someone Explain?

I have a friend. We are of the same age. We got pregnant about the same time last year, and gave birth around the same time, too. Only a week apart. 

It was her first child and it was second for me. She had a boy though, and mine was a girl.

I met her last weekend and I was shocked to see her appearance. She was skinny!

She was more of a curvier type of woman before – always has been her entire life I think – and she had never been this skinny even when she was going to get married. But how did she get so skinny after giving birth! It was mind bogling for me.

I could no longer use “age” and “slow metabolism” as an excuse to why I haven’t been able to lose weight after having my second. I figure it is hard to lose weight when you are over 30 because your metabolism has slowed down, but alas, such case did not apply on my friend.

Was I jealous? Oh yes! 

She is also a stay-at-home-mom like me and lives away from her family and friends because her husband works in Putrajaya. I guess her routine is pretty much the same as me. I don’t know if she is on a diet and workout as well but from the look of it, she is living the same lifestyle as me.

But I can’t figure out how she lost all those kgs she gained and then some just from taking care of a baby, breastfeeding and doing housechores!

I’m breastfeeding too but why I still can’t manage to lose weight? My weight has been stagnant for months now. I’m stuck at the same number. I’M supposed to lose weight faster because I have not one but TWO critters to take care of. 

Is it because my body has carried a baby twice so my metabolism and everything that’s essential to lose weight have gone haywire? Is it because my hips have delivered two children they are spread apart so much that I couldn’t fit into my old jeans back? Is there a difference in a woman’s body according to how many children you have? Say I have my third child when I’m 35, will someone aged 35 lose weight faster than me after giving birth with their first child, while I lose weight slower because it is my third child?

Dunno why I get so worked up about this. Maybe because I am forever feeling frustrated with my non-existent weight loss and this ill-feeling towards my friend 😣



I’m not losing weight as fast as I wanted but looking from the photos taken all 4 months postpartum, I did lose weight.

This is embarrassing but this is how I looked at the final weeks of my pregnancy. I was either 39 or 40 weeks – just counting the days to give birth. Really swollen and fat from all the weight I gained. I hated taking pictures during that time but I just took this single photo as…I dunno…reminder, I guess. I totally lost my jawline – even my mom noticed that and pointed that out – I was really round!

This was around Christmas. I think I was about 1.5 months postpartum. I lost weight quicker when I’m all alone at home managing 2 kids while on confinement diet which was nothing but soup and rice. At this time, I was feeling better about myself and thought I could celebrate Christmas not looking like a whale haha

This is my recent pic. Four months postpartum. I got my jawline back!

Better angle.

Even better angle 😅

My current weight is not consistent but safe to say I was 3kg to my pre-pregnancy weight. I’ll be happy if I just lose the 3kg but my goal is to lose 5kg so that I’ll fit my old clothes better. I still haven’t been able to fit my jeans and that frustrated me a lot. With my first, I was able to at 3 months postpartum ok 😅

I don’t know what I do differently this time. To be honest, I should be losing weight faster la because basically I’m working out all the time managing 2 kids and housechores. I eat like a normal person, didn’t take seconds and snack only occassionally. I’m also exclusively breastfeeding. But the weight still drop very slowly aaaaa 😣

Slow metabolism due to age, I guess. Getting old.

Ambition and Books

If there is a job that I can do from home, it would be writing.

I would like to write a book but my head is blank. I don’t have any ideas and if there is any, it is not original 😅

How awesome it is if I can write a book and be successful like J.K. Rowling! Harry Potter is one of the series that I read over and over again. If I read one book, I will surely read all seven of them and watch the movies, too. That’s how addictive Harry Potter is to me.

There is another series of book that I’m addicted to. I just discovered it last year and I am so glad to discover that all the books in the series were finished and I was able to binge read through all of them!

It was the Riyria Chronicles and Riyria Revelations by Michael J. Sullivan. There were 3 omnibooks (2 books in 1 novel) in the Chronicles and 3 books in the Revelations. That means 9 books total and if I start to read one, I will surely read all of them because reading one just makes me want to read more 😁

The authors of these books are just too damn good or what! I wonder where do they get their inspirations 🤔 They are just so creative! Their writing skills are great and I just love the world they created!

How to become like them? 😂