Matilda’s Speech

Matilda is nearly three yet her speech is a bit worrying 😟

It’s not like she is entirely mute la. She totally can speak and even sing songs, but she doesn’t really…converse with us. If she wants something or tell us how she feels about something, she just gesture or sign. Just body language and lots of grunting or babbling.

I read it’s because she lacks attention from us and spends a lot of time in front of the TV or handphone watching cartoon. That’s why she doesn’t know how to communicate with people. I think it’s true 😔

So I quickly intervene before she gets worse. I started being annoying, meaning, I asked her questions A LOT and asked her to repeat after me. I forced her to tell me what she wants before I give her the thing. I think it has been weeks since I did that and she shows some improvements!

We are not conversing fully now like any adorable three year old with their moms on Youtube, but at least she could tell me a few things that she wants unlike before. First she get my attention by walking towards me and pulling my hand – she knows I’m Mommy but doesn’t call me that…yet – and when she starts pulling I asked her, “What you want?” Just recently she is able to reply me, for example, “Puzzle!” If she wants me to open or turn on something, she’ll point at it and say “Open/Turn on!”

I assume she doesn’t know what to ask or answer before that’s why she doesn’t reply us when we ask her 😂 But I taught her what to say if she wants something and so far she has learned it!

If she wants to watch her favourite cartoon, she’ll hand me the remote and say something like “Washi washi Mickey Mouse” but I know she really wants to say “Want to watch Mickey Mouse” haha 😂😂 Only a mom understands their child’s speech. Some of her words are not perfect yet but what matters most is progress, right?


Don’t Need New Pants Hahah

Jealousy is good when used in a positive manner. In my case, it is a good motivator!

Earlier I blogged about how jealous I felt upon seeing a friend who slimmed down drastically after giving birth and my frustration towards my stagnant weight. Guess what? This week I did a little change in my diet and by the end of it, I finally could wear my old pants!

Even though I could barely fit (tight as sarung nangka 😂) but the feeling of fitting in my old pants, my pre-pregnancy pants is just so thrilling! I can finally say bye-bye to my maternity pants for good….for now 😅

So what did I do? It is not a big change but still could produce results and that’s what I want. I just reduce my coffee/sweet drinks intake to twice a day (before, I drink as much as I want) and control my carb intake. I just eat as usual but I don’t take seconds. If I really want to eat somemore I just eat lauk and drink lots of water after that to keep me full. I did snack in between meals but all I eat is just lactation cookies or brownies with water. 

My milk supply fluctuated a bit at the start of this new diet – maybe because I eat a bit less or maybe because I drink green tea (milk killer?) but I just persevered and a few days later, my supply returned to normal. But I also stop drinking green tea 😞 I’m afraid that my supply will not return to normal if I keep drinking.

I did take a few supplements to help with weight loss; Shaklee Omegaguard to help burn calories faster and VCO to flush it out because I was a bit constipated ever since I give birth.

So yeah, I managed to lose some weight faster with a little change and I hope I could maintain this! I would love to lose 2-3kg more so that my pants would fit comfortably but I am pleased enough as of now 😁

Can Someone Explain?

I have a friend. We are of the same age. We got pregnant about the same time last year, and gave birth around the same time, too. Only a week apart. 

It was her first child and it was second for me. She had a boy though, and mine was a girl.

I met her last weekend and I was shocked to see her appearance. She was skinny!

She was more of a curvier type of woman before – always has been her entire life I think – and she had never been this skinny even when she was going to get married. But how did she get so skinny after giving birth! It was mind bogling for me.

I could no longer use “age” and “slow metabolism” as an excuse to why I haven’t been able to lose weight after having my second. I figure it is hard to lose weight when you are over 30 because your metabolism has slowed down, but alas, such case did not apply on my friend.

Was I jealous? Oh yes! 

She is also a stay-at-home-mom like me and lives away from her family and friends because her husband works in Putrajaya. I guess her routine is pretty much the same as me. I don’t know if she is on a diet and workout as well but from the look of it, she is living the same lifestyle as me.

But I can’t figure out how she lost all those kgs she gained and then some just from taking care of a baby, breastfeeding and doing housechores!

I’m breastfeeding too but why I still can’t manage to lose weight? My weight has been stagnant for months now. I’m stuck at the same number. I’M supposed to lose weight faster because I have not one but TWO critters to take care of. 

Is it because my body has carried a baby twice so my metabolism and everything that’s essential to lose weight have gone haywire? Is it because my hips have delivered two children they are spread apart so much that I couldn’t fit into my old jeans back? Is there a difference in a woman’s body according to how many children you have? Say I have my third child when I’m 35, will someone aged 35 lose weight faster than me after giving birth with their first child, while I lose weight slower because it is my third child?

Dunno why I get so worked up about this. Maybe because I am forever feeling frustrated with my non-existent weight loss and this ill-feeling towards my friend 😣